Advice from Stephanie Gonzalez

February 3rd, 2009

Hey Stephanie,

How's it going? I have kind of a dilemma. I like two boys. I've liked both of them for the same amount of time. One of the guys is Matt, and I talk to him all of the time--every day--but I barely see him. He doesn't tell me everything, but he's like the sweetest person ever to me and puts up with my annoying habits. Phil, on the other hand, is really attractive and so nice to me. Phil's personality is more appealing to me, and I see him almost every day because we work in the same office. What should I do? My heart's telling me to go with Matt because I have more feelings for him, but I have a lot of feelings for Phil, too, and see him all the time.

Sincerely,
Me

Dear You,

This is a very confusing problem because the way I'm seeing, it can go either way for you. You could be good with either one of the two, but I wouldn't suggest that you go for both at the same time. If you say you like Matt that much, then why can't you and him make it your business to set time out to see each other? Of course you're going to keep liking other people if you don't see Matt very often. But if you start seeing him more often and talk to him as much as you say you do, you might just grow to like him. Or, you could go ahead and like Phil because you see him more and continue to have more feelings for another problem. What if that gets in the way of your and Phil's relationship because you will still be thinking of Matt? In my experience, you shouldn't jump into something new when you're not done with what you started. If you end up being with Phil, you should talk to Matt and tell him everything before he ends up getting hurt.

-Stephanie